Sexploitation by Cindy Pierce
Bibliomotion Inc.: 10/13/15
eBook review copy, 240 pages
Sexploitation by Cindy Pierce is a highly recommended look at
how the current generation of young people is influenced by the porn
culture surrounding them. Teens, as well as much younger children,
today have a vast amount of junk/porn grabbing for their attention via
the internet and social media. The overriding problem is that in this
hyper-connected age in which we live our children are often failing to
establish a healthy, well-grounded view of sex and relationships.
book has the following chapters: 1. Inner Compass; 2. Umplugging; 3.
Porn Culture: 4. Sexuality Education
for Young Kids; 5. Sexuality Education for Older Kids and teens; 6.
Girls; 7. Empowering Girls; 8. Worthy Boys; 9. Setting Boys Free; 10. A
Hookup Culture Fueled by Alcohol; 11. Moving Beyond Hookups. This is
followed by a conclusion, and much to my delight, references, and an
Pierce points out that "Unfortunately, the number and type of
influences young people are
managing in the digital age make it more challenging for them to listen
to their inner compass. Many young people have a hard time making the
distinction between what they value and what they think they should
value, based on what they see online and in social media." All of us are
complicated, multidimensional beings with flaws. One of the problems is
that the prevalence of social media as a way for kids to communicate
with each other presents them with a bad venue for an accurate
portrayal. Parents make a horrible mistake when they surrender to their
kids obsession with screen time. It was pointed out that teens should think of what they "put out online as a tattoo. It is that permanent." Wise advice for everyone.
Just look at how everyone, but especially teens, looks at their phone
all the time now. If one person pulls out their phone, everyone does.
It has become how kids (and increasingly adults) interact with each
other instead of face to face. This is a mistake of vast proportions.
Social media cannot capture subtle body language, irony, joking. Small
things can be blown out of proportion. Inappropriate pictures or
conversations can be started and shared. Pierce points out that she and
her husband have a rule that computers and phones stay
downstairs and out of the kids’ rooms. It is a practice that has been recommendation by their school and many other parents also employ it.
Pierce notes that "These days, kids are constantly being reminded to avoid bystander
apathy. Parents, educators, and coaches talk to them about how they
should stand up to bullying, hazing, homophobia, racism, and cruelty.
But it’s unrealistic to expect most kids to immediately muster the
strength and risk social rejection by calling peers out. They need
practice speaking up on small issues (litter, disrespectful language,
meanness, intimidation) in material; order to develop the courage to
stand up when the stakes are higher (sexual assault, hazing, DUI)." Isn't that the truth!
While porn is often found, and easily accessible, online, it is also in
advertisements, music videos, and video games. the prevalence of
pornographic images has desensitized us as a society. "Porn can be an
obstacle that prevents kids from developing healthy ideas
about sex for a number of reasons: while porn objectifies both men and
women, most of what is viewed degrades women, reinforces role
expectations, desensitizes the viewer to violent sexual behavior,
creates expectations about how bodies appear and respond, and skews
overall sexual expectations. Rather than trying to stop the porn
industry, my aim is to material; inspire parents to have open
conversations with their kids about porn."
Pierce covers information vital for parents to open up the discussion
about sexuality with girls and boys. She does a nice job of discussing
ways to keep communication open and how to approach the first "talk,"
which should be followed by many more as children grow and mature. She
shares lots of research findings as well as personal stories and
anecdotes while getting a vital message across.
While, as the parent of adult children, I didn't quite agree with
every single thing Pierce shared, she did present some startling facts
and plenty of good, practical information. This book is easy to read and
well organized so the chapters flow nicely and logically from one topic
to the next. It does not present any morale-based ideas or religious
views that some families would also consider a vital part of any
life-training talks. I'd highly recommend it.
Disclosure: My Kindle edition was courtesy
of Bibliomotion for review