My Friends by Fredrik Backman
5/6/25;
448 pages
Atria Books
My Friends by Fredrik Backman is an exceptional,
heartbreaking, humorous, very highly recommended story of friendship,
art, trust, and finding your people. This is a masterpiece and certainly
will be the best book I've read this year, perhaps even over several
years. Admittedly, I am a long time admirer of Backman's work but My Friends is a life-list book.
An artist's first painting, “The One of the Sea,” is being sold and eighteen-year-old Louisa
needs to see the painting for her own reasons. Her best friend Fish
recently died and Louisa knows that the painting isn't about the sea,
it's about the small group of friends on a dock in the corner of the
painting. Circumstances result into her running from a security guard
and crashing into a homeless man in the alley. Only he isn't homeless,
he is the artist of “The One of the Sea” who calls himself C. Jat, and he is dying.
In the hospital later the artist tells Ted about Louisa and
proclaims "She's one of us!" The us is the group of four friends, the
friends in the painting from twenty-five years earlier and the ones he
knew at fourteen and fifteen, when he painted “The One of the
Sea.” These friends are Joar, Ted, Ali, and the artist. The artist, who
had Ted buy his painting back, tells Ted to give the painting to Louisa
and this leads to the two embarking on a cross country trip where she
learns about the friends and how they saved each other from their bruising home lives and in school.
The dual timeline works perfectly in My Friends. The present
day is Louisa and Ted on their trip while Ted tells the story of when
they were teens in a working class neighborhood and how they helped each
other survive. Louisa talks about how Fish helped her survive. The
story is emotional and I was tearing up and openly crying throughout.
Their interactions can also be humorous. These young characters went
through so much. He points out that the world has spent thousands of years practicing how to puncture the lungs of children who are different.
The characters come to life under his careful, compassionate, and
insightful portrayal. They are all fully realized individuals with
vulnerabilities, strengths and weaknesses. These teens know that they
can love and trust each other, which is a combination that can be
difficult to find in life. They took care of their friendship and helped
the artist survive being different while encouraging his artistic
pursuits.
As Backman notes several times in the well-written narrative that, the most dangerous place on earth is inside us.
He writes: No one can explain why some fourteen-year-olds want to die.
Nature gains nothing from unhappy children, yet they are still walking
around everywhere, without the words to describe their anxiety. Also
that a "Lack of self confidence is a devastating virus. There is no cure."
There is a plethora of observations about what art is and there were
so many quotes I saved. A few examples: Art teaches us to mourn for
strangers, isn't chronological, is what we leave of ourselves in other people, and art doesn't need critics, art has enough enemies already. Art needs friends.
My Friends is a must read book that is sure to become a classic, on many lists of one of the best books ever, and a top book club choice. Thanks to Atria Books for providing me with an
advance reader's copy via NetGalley. My review is voluntary and
expresses my honest opinion.